Kubler, not Sigur

Kubler Ross. Not to be confused with one of my favorite bands, Sigur Ros. Anyone recognise the name?

Kubler Ross was a pyschologist who wrote about the stages of death and dying. Really they can be used for any type of loss or grief. Not just death, death...you get the picture. So was anyone awake in psych 101 or psych seminar to name them? And can you tell by my tone of voice which stage I am in?

DABDA. That's how I learned to remember them.
D-Depression.
A-Anger.
B-Bargaining.
D-Denial.
A-Acceptance.

Today I am denial. Was yesterday too. Pretty much acting like this isn't happening. I'm glad my 3 years of Psych are good for self-diagnosis. Actually, having this knowledge (which I actually learned in high school...so i didn't even need college) makes me feel pretty normal. And it helps me to understand my family and where they are at day-to-day.

My sister told me Dad's back in the hospital. I don't know when that happened and I honestly don't feel like calling to ask. My aunt called me to find out if we knew anymore...I forgot to call her like I had promised. That's his sister. I got to ask a few questions about his childhood to see if she remembers him acting like this. She said their parents acted the same way. Always said everything was alright when it clearly wasn't. Interesting, huh?

So we're dealing with generational bondage (which looks just like nurture/learned behavior, but it is so much more than that) which is keeping him from acknowledging the truth. We need some fervent prayers, friends. Fervent prayers.